Grief of losing an unborn child

askshivani health mental health miscarraige supportingwomen Sep 27, 2021

Dealing with losing an unborn child is....hard, terrible, devastating....

This weeks focus is for women to acknowledge the grief of losing an unborn child.

The steps to most grief are:

  • Acknowledge your pain.
  • Accept that grief can trigger many different and unexpected emotions.
  • Understand that your grieving process will be unique to you.
  • Seek out face-to-face support from people who care about you.
  • Support yourself emotionally by taking care of yourself physically.
  • Recognise the difference between grief and depression.

The issue is that there are not many organisations that help women deal with it.  There are so many women I have mentored over the last 18 years that talk about losing a baby and have never dealt with it.

If you haven't dealt with it, you need to work out how to do that even if it was 20 or 40 years ago.

The simplest way is to remember that baby and talk about them in your family.

We lost our CD coming up to 13 years ago.  Even though I have two healthy children, 2nd October marks a day in my diary where I take extra time to remember her, cry, talk about her.  I don't want her to be forgotten.

There are some organisations that are worth looking into.  This month is also international mis-carraige, stillbirth and newborn death support on the 15th October.

And if you need help with grief, seek out a councillor or check out


Shivani x





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